It has often been said that it is possible to never truly know another man until you walk a mile in his shoes. Nicely, I’ll take this analogy a step further and say the same applies to you. You’ll never know what’s really going on inside your guy’s head until you walk in his shoes, i.e., get inside his head.
This is by no means an simple process. According to a 5000 person study done by Rodale publishing, publishers of both Men’s and Women’s Health Magazines, almost 66% of men don’t want you asking them questions about themselves. What about the other 34% of men? They just might be content using the questions you’ve already asked! The bottom line to all this is that it’s probably best to get your questions answered elsewhere.
What do I mean by getting inside his head and exactly where must you start off to do this?
I believe a very good book would be a great place to begin but which one?
Now this is where you come in. It ought to be your aim to put yourself in a guy’s shoes if only in your imagination. Obviously books are great for this. Countless romance novels paint pictures of guys as the writers believe men ought to be. Men and women are cast as various archetypes that have similarities inside the real world. Sometimes romance novels strike a chord and sometimes they don’t. I suppose fantasy might be great for escape and fun, but does it get you closer to understanding men better?
It’s probably best to read something reality based as it can give you new insights you never had before. The insights garnered from these kinds of books will answer questions like the following.
Has your guy ever said something that has thrown you for a loop, made you scratch your head, or made you want to pull your hair out?
Has his lack of communication made you feel betwixt and between?
Have you ever been confused by something he’s said or not said?
Could he be much more talkative?
Does he ever think about the relationship? Is he even capable of undertaking it?
Has that “secret code” guys speak ever driven you towards the brink of exhaustion and made you wonder if you’ll ever, ever understand what he’s really trying to say?
Could a better understanding of the male mind, of the way men communicate and the way men believe, help you build a relationship that would make you the envy of friends and family?
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